“Single Awareness Day”
This is what my friend told me February 14 actually really celebrates…and y’know, I completely agree with him! There is no other day that the notion of being single stands out ever so strongly, except on Valentine’s, reminding singles every minute of their pitiful depressed state of being alone when couples go out to celebrate.
I’m not trying to be cynical about the whole ordeal of romance and the day where people can profess their love, but really, one has to admit that it is annoying to those who are single! Y’know, I don’t even know what I’m trying to ramble about here…
ANYWAY, to those of you who are single and just need help to get through the day, I found a Survival Guide for being Single on Valentine’s Day.
1 Do not define yourself by your relationship status. Your relationship status is not your identity.
2. If you are single because of a recent loss, allow this to be a day of grieving. Do not pretend that it’s not a hard day. Get support and sympathy.
3. Realize that Valentine’s Day is a commercial holiday. It is not about love and relationships; it is about selling flowers, candy, and diamond jewelry. Think of all the money you are saving.
4. Plan well in advance to do something that will not place you in the path of billing and cooing couples. Even if you usually like dining out alone, do something else on Valentine’s Day.
5. Get together with people who do love you — friends, family members, the people who already have relationships with you.
6. If you are single and you don’t want to be, start now to think about what is in the way of you creating the relationship you want. Find ways to work on becoming the person your dream partner would fall in love with. Start therapy. Take up yoga. Begin to volunteer. Create art. Make meaning. Act to change the world. It is into the fullest lives that love is most likely to fall.
7. If you are single and you like it, now is the time to affirm your choice. People who never marry or partner have close, loving, emotionally intimate relationships and lives worth living. Do not let a couple-driven culture define your choice as something wrong.
It’s funny the things people do and think to mask the fact that they are single on Valentine’s Day.
But I shan’t continue to spoil the true meaning of this lovely day to those out there who have been looking forward to Feb 14 to celebrate your love…
If that is you, Happy Valentine’s Day!
To the rest of us (yes, I’m proudly and hopelessly one), let’s celebrate our singleness! ….. (yeah right!)